An ethnographic and comparative study between two groups of men who meet to talk about masculinity, sexuality and gender through the internet. The first group approaches classical therapeutic groups, in which different individuals get together to talk specifically about their most adverse feelings. The second group meets with a fixed theme, with the proposal to find examples in their memories, sensations and behaviors that are close to the current theme. These two groups are the result of the struggle of feminist movements that open and encourage men to come together to talk about gender, understand their problems and find solutions, moving them away from the classic, generalist and naturalist figure of villainy, relating man to also being part of a historical and social process of construction of a social role opposed to women, linked to domination. The motivations of the participants in these groups range from paternity to their relationship with pornography and cheating. I understand this document as a contribution to the historical overview of studies on masculinities in Brazil from the lens of Anthropology of Emotions and Anthropology of Therapies (Favret-Saada, 2005).