This work aims to discuss the psychoanalytic notion of male love in a patriarchal phalocentric society. Starting with Freudian ideas based on the Oedipus complex we then discussed Badinter, Ribeiro and Chodorow`s contributions that consider pre-Oedipus identifications, and specially the primary identification with mother fundamental in the constitution of masculinity, which in their views is always secondary. Finally we concluded that in phalocentric societies becoming a man signifies to be radically separated from the mother and to delete from the mind the feminine traces acquired in the relation with the maternal object. Therefore, in phalocentric societies love is a dangerous feeling for men who protect themselves from it in different ways, splitting being one of them according to Freud.