The liquidity of modernity and the plastic sexuality have both produced the reinvention of the family. Nowadays, it is the divorce and not death that separates the couples. Thus, the main enhancements to build up a family tend to be affection and the search for completude. The same process is familiar with parenting and that s why family ties are no longer defined by blood knots alone. Therefore, the inevitable visibility within social Brazilian scenario of the gay parenting family structure is easy to be seen. These families are the object of our research: parents who call themselves homosexuals, who experienced a previous heterosexual relationship, make up their minds to start their lives from scratch with same sex companions. Nevertheless, our focus will not remain on parents, but the companions of these parents. So as to reach our aim we have selected three homosexual male couples, all of the interior of the state of the Rio de Janeiro, ranging from 19 to 31 years of age with children from 7 to 10 years old. We interviewed both members of the couple, in order to try to better understand the subjectivity of the companion without children: what do these men think, since they have had their lives suddenly transformed and start coexisting with their companions children? What are their main expectations and anguishes? Should the fact of observing their boyfriends parenthood bursts out the parenthood desire? Who is eligible for which home chores?This questioning led us to organize semi-structured interview questions and through an analysis of speech, reach the following categories: coparenting, desire for a biological son from the coparental experience, relation of the couple with the children and prejudice. The homosexuality stigma seems to crush hard on them and they state that this is due to the fact of not having constituted a family in the heterssexual standards, contrasting with the reality of his partners. The queer theory, that has also helped us in our research, suggests that cristalized identities should be re-evaluated, if you see them from a post-idenity point of view.